Today, my husband of almost seven years is packing to move out.
We loved it when we lived in different states and saw each other two weeks a month. Living together full time with two dogs, four cats that don’t get along and an ever-starving teenage son has literally put us in different states – of mind.
We still love each other, and we aren’t divorcing – instead we’re starting our new journey of “Living Apart Together” to see if that works for us. This concept isn’t new, and I’ve long been a fan of this idea – in theory. Now we are going to join over three MILLION other couples in our country who are “living apart together” for a variety of reasons. Fingers crossed that we become the three million and first success story – I’m very optimistic!
As usual, when things get rough, I find refuge in my work, as I am doing today. I really enjoy interfacing with Candace and Ginita on the various projects of WIFE.org, sometimes for pay and sometimes as a volunteer. And as usual, one thing leads to another. Back in August, I was talking to Ann Marsh, an incredible reporter who writes for many wonderful magazines, including Financial Planning,about a story she was writing about the Women’s Choice Award for Financial Advisors. Somehow we got off on the topic of “Living Apart Together,” so I gave her a call to tell her the latest development in my life.
I shared with Ann the irony I felt with my husband moving out at the same time I was working on launching our new online educational website for Second Saturday: What Everyone Needs to Know About Divorce.” I told her how excited I am to be doing something to help even more women navigate divorce, and how inspiring it was to have an “angel” donation for this work from an incredible woman, Karen Camp, who went through an awful divorce and wanted to help so others would not suffer. We also talked about how Ginita and Candace have selflessly run the Second Saturday workshops for 25 years, donating about $300,000 back into the San Diego community, helping about nine thousand women.
Make that nine thousand and one, including me. The support and community WIFE.org provides has helped me understand that no matter what it is I’m facing, I never have to do it alone – neither do you!