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  1. Kelly
    April 15, 2013

    My ex has told my son he can come live with him in sept. when he turns 14.we are not yet divorced and have no custody arrangement but he lives and goes to school with me.my ex hasnt paid any support in months and only contacts our son every few weeks when its convienent for him.my son thinks if he goes to live with his dad he won’t have any chores and will just be able to party all the time.it is not a good enviornment for him at his dads at all.he drinks all the time and is not stable.but is it true that when my son turns 14, he can go live there and I can’t do anything to stop it?

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    • Melisa
      October 12, 2017

      It depends on what state you’re in. Every state has different laws. I’m in Ohio and it’s the age of 13 as far as I know.

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  2. Angela Logan
    October 19, 2014

    My husbands family owns the house we’ve lived in for the past 11 years of our 12 year marriage, He also gets 1200.00 a month from his dad out of his grand mothers estate.
    I don’t make nearly that much but i do carry us through the rest of the month, while he sits around at home all day and blames me for every problem we have. Financial or otherwise.
    Anyway I’ve finally had it and want out. My problem is I don’t make enough money to move out just yet. I do have a new job prospect coming up.
    This morning I told him it was going to take a little time to get in this new job and to find a place.
    so can we agree to be civil to one another. he said sure, but tonight because i refused to sleep in our room he told me i have 10 days to get out. when i told him i have at least 30 days by law. he said stay 11 days and see if i don’t cut your head off. he is on probation for domestic violence against me.
    what do i do?

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    • Ginita Wall, CPA, CFP®
      October 23, 2014

      Contact a domestic violence hotline ASAP.

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  3. amanda bedford
    March 29, 2015

    I have owned my house 3 years before i met my husband ithad a morgage on it the house is still just in my name .i was a single mum….we have been married 4 years can he claim of my house if we get a divorce.?

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    • Ginita Wall, CPA, CFP®
      April 1, 2015

      Whether he has an interest in the home depends on the laws of your state. If you are in England, I don’t know whether the laws are countrywide or by area.

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  4. mandy
    May 18, 2015

    My husband already said he is plannng on not making anymore payments on the house, just so I can be screwed. I only work part-time. Make maybe 800.00 a month. Our house payment is 781.00. What do I do? Even if I work more hours I won’t get by. Do I let him have the house? Let him ruin my credit because he isn’t making any payments? We are still currently 2 months behinfmd!

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    • Ginita Wall, CPA, CFP®
      May 18, 2015

      If you want to take legal action, you’ll have to file for divorce or separation. Then you can request a court date to ask the judge to make him pay the payment. But the judge might order that the house be sold, if it doesn’t look as though your husband can afford the payment.

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  5. Shanie
    June 2, 2015

    I have been with my husband for 23 yrs. he has had numerous affairs… Abusive in every sense of the word… And I recently found out that he has a 21 yr old child in which he conceived during one of his cheating spree’s. We also have 2 children , one over 18 and one under 18. I’ve been talking divorce…which doesn’t seem to bother him, he’s more concerned about the money aspect. He says he would never pay alimony nor child support. He threatened that I had better not ever go after him for cash. I do fear him. I’ve never been a money hungry type of person. I am disabled due to an injury…and I’m on a limited income. I would rather not have to depend on him for alimony or child support…but how else am I supposed to survive after I gave him all my life and sacrifice …I don’t trust the legal system…it’s not so easy to just call the cops if he threatens about support…court ordered or not….he won’t do it. Let me emphasize …I do not trust the legal system as far as protecting me… Any suggestions?

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    • Ginita Wall, CPA, CFP®
      June 9, 2015

      If your husband won’t protect you, then the legal system is all you’ve got. Consult an attorney to find out your rights under the law. You may be surprised.

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  6. A GG
    October 7, 2015

    I divorced 23yrs ago. In 1992 in Mexico. My 3 children 5, 8 and 11 yrs old., I was a home stay mom, I asked for the divorced because of domestic violence ( I. Ever reported to the police ). We agreed to the divorce but he threaten me that if I asked for alimony or child support he would quite his job my Attorny told my husband he had to put an amount on the divorce papers. So he agreed for $300 a month ( 100 for ea child ) I thought it was ridiculous amount, very low considering how much it cost to support a child. But never the less I agreed. He only keep is his word for 3 or 6 months. After that he never gave me a dime I told him it was I. The contract. He said he did not care and that I should support them because I aasked for the divorce not him. His earning till this day are good he works for the same company til this day in USA. can I still go back for back child support.? I am unemployed and have a disability because of his domestic violence. My children and I went through a lot of hardship because he neglected the child support.
    Thank you so much for your help and I look forward in hearing your answer . Do you give personal consulting?

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  7. A GG
    October 7, 2015

    I forgot to add. My disability is not recognize as a disability in the SS, because they say I do not need a voice to work I can do other jobs without my voice, my jobs were always at an office. My interviews do not go week because of the Lost of voice. Employers do not say this to me but I know that is the reason for them to turn me down. Thank soooo much!

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  8. A GG
    October 7, 2015

    I forgot to add. the SS, say I do not need a voice to work I can do other jobs without my voice, my jobs were always at an office. My interviews do not go well because of my voice. Employers do not say this to me but I know that is the reason for them to turn me down. Thank soooo much!

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  9. Lesley
    October 30, 2015

    My ex-husband is demanding information on my insurance policies, which also cover our daughter. He says I was legally required to discuss any insurance with him before signing her up and that we are required to split the premium costs 50/50. I don’t want him to have access to any information about me or my family that isn’t required by law as any interaction with him is unpleasant to say the least. In our parenting plan insurance is only mentioned twice. 1) He is required to provide our daughter with health insurance, 2) we are required to split any “uninsured expenses” 50/50. I’m tired of being badgered by him and his threats when he doesn’t get to control my life and decisions any longer. Do I have to provide him with insurance information that covers our daughter like dental, supplemental cancer, life for which she is beneficiary etc. if I am the one who has applied for, received it and is paying for it?

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    • Ginita Wall, CPA, CFP®
      October 30, 2015

      I’m not an attorney and I don’t know the legal requirements in your state. Consult with an attorney who can advise you about what you have to do.

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  10. Maggie
    May 9, 2017

    My husband and I we are married 2 years and we came to the point that we will get divorce we have a house is on his name only but we live together 5 years in that house he is threatening me that he will rent me a apartment for six months and live me 6 years old car . But there is a house , trailer on the lake and boat he also have franchise business. what i should do and what is my rights

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    • Ginita Wall, CPA, CFP®
      May 11, 2017

      See an attorney right away to see what you are entitled to under the laws of your state.

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  11. Jacqueline
    August 16, 2017

    I am 73 and on my husband’s Operating a Engineers Health Insurance. He has been retired the 18 years we’ve been married. Will I lose my OE benefits if we divorce?

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    • Ginita Wall, CPA, CFP®
      August 17, 2017

      You likely will not have health insurance under your spouse’s plan when you are no longer a spouse, if it covers a spouse but not an ex-spouse. You can look at the plan to be sure.

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  12. Tina Meece
    January 28, 2018

    I got divorce in 2014,we were married 14 years I never worked I was a house wife he didn’t want me to work im fifty now with alot of health problems can I draw any thing off his social security he is seventy three im trying for disability

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    • Ginita Wall, CPA, CFP®
      January 28, 2018

      Once you are of retirement age, you can receive social security divorced spouse retirement benefits if those exceed your own benefits. Check with social security to see if you are eligible for disability payments until then.

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