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  1. Augustina Wingate
    September 7, 2017

    Where can I go to a second Saturday meeting?
    I live in Dayton Ohio.
    Also has anyone be able to break a prenuptial agreement? If so please email me? I
    I have been going through a divorce for a one year and nine months. I have been to court four times now. My attorney says that the hearing should be the last one. We have been married for nineteen years. We did not having any children together but I have two grown children from my first husband whom I was widowed from after 23 years of marriage. When I married this husband I was debt free and owned a home. I don’t have any debt but I don’t have a home any longer because I sold it and used the money to raise my son who was twelve when his dad died. My present husband has two adult children. I signed this prenup the day before the wedding. He presented the prenup to me three weeks before the wedding and I took it my attorney who handled all the legal matters and probate when my first husband died. She told me that I should not sign it because I had a lot to loose. But in the heat of passion I loved this man I signed it. He of course told me not to worry because he would always take care of me. IHOPE THIS will help others to take heed. I even asked my priest about signing a prenup. He told me that the Catholic Church does not recognize prenup because marriage is based on trust. But again I was in love passionately. We dated and were engaged for almost a year and half before we married. I am now living in a cramped apartment that is old and not kept up as promised by my landlord. My standard of living has a least dropped by 75%. But at least I feel safe and don’t feel like I am walking on eggs anymore.
    I am praying that I judge will rule in favor of voided the prenuptial agreement. Long story short dO NOT SIGN A PRENUP!

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    • Rachel
      January 22, 2018

      I was wondering how things went at the last hearing?

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  2. Gina
    September 18, 2017

    Hi!
    I need your advice. My husband and I married goe 7years and live together before marriage 10 years so total 17 years. We have 2 kids 18 years old in college and 15 years old who has autism. I used to work full time but when my son was diagnosed wirh autism I started to work only part time. We bought a house 12 years ago with 50-50 share but the house is under my name because my husbands credit was bad. Now, for the last 4 years our marriage was on the rocks and I don’t think we can live together in the same house. I asked him to file for divorce because I can’t afford financially. But he refused because he don’t want to leave the house because he is intitled to it. He’s yearly salary is $100k plus bonus and i only make $ 150 a week i usef to make $600 a week but he asked me to quit and work only part time but now im worried because i have no mone save but at the same I can’t live him anymore we fight every day and I don’t think its healthy for the family. Please please help me and give an idea of what will happen aftet divorce, am i gonna lose my house, my kids?

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    • Ginita Wall, CPA, CFP®
      September 25, 2017

      The laws of each state are different. Talk to an attorney right away so you can find out the answer to your questions.

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  3. Louise
    September 30, 2017

    I have been living with my husband for 31 years-married 22. We have a 19 year old daughter who is a college sophomore. My husband inherited the house we have lived in for the 31 years ago and we lived there ever since and then inherited another home in 2013 and about 1/2 million in cash. He hasn’t worked since the Fall of 2013 as he ended up deathly ill in 2014 requiring a heart transplant. He was never at any point declared disabled but just chooses to live off his money and not work. He pays very little of our daughter’s expenses just as it has been since the day she was born! He feels he needs his inheritance to live on and can’t help with her education or expenses. So far out of $30,000 + he gave me $3600. I carry the families insurance for last 22 years. Can you give me an idea on what claim I have on any of his assets? We live in Massachusetts and I myself have about $200,000 in assets.

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    • Ginita Wall, CPA, CFP®
      October 1, 2017

      Ask an attorney about what you are entitled to. In most states his inheritance would be his own asset, not yours, but you may be entitled to support based on those funds and their earnings.

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  4. Irene
    November 2, 2017

    I have been married to my husband for 35 years. I worked for the first 31 years of our marriage. I was injured
    at work in Oct of 2010 and kept on working, I was injured again when I was pushed down the stairs at work in May of 2011 but kept on working, I was injured again at work in march of 2013 and that was the final injury that kept me from working any longer. I was also injured in a hit and run accident while driving from one doctors appointment to another in September of 2014. I received $2820.64 tax free every month from workmen compensation. We lived in Hawaii. My husband lost his job in Hawaii and got another job in Florida. We , my husband , our 11 year old son and I moved from Hawaii to Florida. After being in Florida for only six months the company I had worked for stopped paying me. My attorney had a massive coronary and I was unaware of this info and could not fight it from Florida, so I was stuck in Florida with no more income to contribute to our household finances.For the entire 35 years of marriage I have done all the cooking, cleaning, laundry , birthday, holidays, school events, doctor and dental appointments etc, Literally everything and worked full time until end of March of 2013. Now 2017 is the first year I have not brought any income into our household but I still do everything else. I was recently diagnosed with MS and a prominent brain tumor. The day after the diagnosis my husband of 35 years informed me in a very cold and callus way that he no longer was in love with me and wants a divorce, he said he want to see other women and he want to take our son from me as well. He does not want to be with a woman who has health issues and he said our son does not need to be exposed to that either. Who does something like this? I am so very devastated. I have no income now , I am not in the best way health wise right now and my husband took all of the money out of our joint bank account.. He took a loan against my car which was paid for, now I literally have nothing and no where to go. He is telling our son I am mentally unstable, I have no income and our son should go with him and not me. This is so devastating I do not know what to do or where to turn. I am in a State where I have no family and no friends, I left everything behind in Michigan for him and then again in Hawaii for him, now I find myself 54 years of age in this horrible situation. I do not know what to do or where to turn. Do you have any advice or suggestions for me, my head is spinning. Thank you.

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    • Ginita Wall, CPA, CFP®
      November 6, 2017

      You need to talk to an attorney right away to find out what your rights are, and the steps you need to take to get financial security for yourself and your family.

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  5. Cheryl
    November 17, 2017

    My husband of 22 years had secretly planning our divorce for months. He moved money from different accounts, used retirement funds to pay off my car, paid off our mortgage and more without my knowledge. He makes over 4 times my salary. I know I am eligible for child support because my 15 year old wants to live with me. Is alimony something in the cards? After I have to get my own health insurance I will have even less of a salary to cover basic expenses.

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    • Ginita Wall, CPA, CFP®
      November 20, 2017

      Most states provide for alimony for at least some period of time. Talk to an attorney familiar with the laws of your state to find out what your rights are.

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  6. Sara
    December 10, 2017

    In 1999 I went through my first divorce. I ended up in the Emergency Room twice both times staying a day or two in the hospital from stress. After getting remarried in 2002 and being married for 15 years it looks like I am getting another divorce from my present husband. I was on this site looking for info on how to get set up with my own health insurance but couldn’t help seeing all the painful stories that reminded me of my own journey. The thing that has helped me the most has been support groups with other women. Their stories are usually amazing and listening to heartbreak that I’m not emotionally involved in has helped me figure out what to do in my own life. I’m so sorry for all of us, but we are not alone.

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  7. jo
    December 15, 2017

    I have been a homemaker for 25 years. My husband has decided he wants to be single and is claiming I do not need spousal support even though he knows I cannot go back into my field without going back to school. He says that I should be able to live on my mom’s inheritance (roughly 55,000). I also have chronic health problems so I need to be able to make enough money to afford insurance and my medications. Is this even possible that he could get his way on this? He’s an attorney to boot.

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    • Ginita Wall, CPA, CFP®
      December 16, 2017

      The worst person to take legal (and financial) advice from is your soon-to-be-ex. Consult an attorney about your rights under the laws of your state.

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  8. janice leggett
    May 13, 2018

    i wants to know if i’m in titje to my husband social after divorce, we were together for 10 years

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    • Ginita Wall, CPA, CFP®
      May 21, 2018

      If you were married for 10 years or longer, then you will qualify to receive divorced spouse benefits when you are both of retirement age if those benefits exceed your own benefits.

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