Should I Keep the House?


Divorce can shake you to your very foundations. Everything changes and many women want to cling to the house as the only stability they can find in a shifting world. Whether keeping the house is your best option depends on many different factors. Here are six things you need to consider in making that important decision.

1. What does the house represent to you?

Home is a refuge from the world, and for many, it is an extension of themselves and their lives. It is the place the children grew up, where you spent happier days, an embodiment of what your marriage should have been. But are those good reasons to keep the home?

Make a list of each of the benefits of living in the house, then for each one ask yourself what feeling that gives you, and where else could you live to get a similar feeling? For example, I like the fact that my house is set off from the street. It makes me feel safe and feeds my privacy, but I guess I could feel safe in a gated community, and I could feel privacy if I had shutters on the windows, or even thick drapes. Bit by bit, this exercise will help you identify what is important to you and open you up to possibilities other than keeping the house.

2. If you keep the house, how long will you live there?

If you plan to keep the house forever, then asking for it in the divorce makes more sense than if you plan to live there for just a couple of years until the kids are grown and gone. Refinancing the mortgage to get your spouse’s name off the loan is costly, and so are the costs of sale when you sell it. (Learn more about refinancing your home during a divorce.) Over a short period of time, those expenses are likely to exceed the appreciation of the home, and you will lose money by keeping the house. But if you have many years of appreciation ahead of you, keeping the house might justify the costs to acquire it in the divorce and sell it later on.

3. Does continuing to hold it jointly with your Ex make sense?

If you intend to keep the house for just a few years, continuing to hold it jointly with your soon-to-be-ex might make sense. That way you don’t have to refinance to get his name off the mortgage and pay him his share of the equity, nor do you have to trade valuable assets such as retirement accounts for his equity. You can keep your same comfortable mortgage payments, you won’t have to pay costly refinancing expenses or 100% of the cost of sale when you sell, and you will both share in the appreciation.

4. What will you have to give up to keep it?

You may be tempted to trade retirement assets for his equity in the house, but before you do, ask yourself whether you’ll be able reconstruct those retirement assets between now and retirement. Retirement planning in divorce is difficult because you are already giving up half the retirement in the divorce. Can you afford to give up even more to keep the house?  If your answer is yes, realize that you may still end up having to sell it when the support runs out and you need funds to retire. By keeping it now, you may only be postponing the inevitable. (Learn more about getting income from retirement plans after divorce.)

5. Can you afford the mortgage payments and home upkeep?

You may be charmed by a low mortgage payment, but once you refinance at today’s interest rates to borrow funds to pay your ex off and get his name off the mortgage, you may not find your monthly payment quite so charming. You’ll also need to consider the regular maintenance that the house requires, as well as any deferred maintenance that has gone by the wayside as the marriage deteriorated. Buying him out of a home that is falling down around you may turn out to be a disastrous decision.

6. Are you signing up for hidden tax consequences if you keep the house?

You can exclude up to $250,000 of capital gains when you sell your home if you’ve lived there for two of the five years before sale. If you and your spouse sell the home jointly, together you can exclude up to $500,000 of gain. But once you become the sole owner of the house, when you sell it, the entire cost of sale and capital gains liability will be yours alone. If the gain exceeds $250,000 you will have to pay tax on the excess, even though your combined $500,000 exclusion might have saved you from paying taxes. So if your home has gone up significantly in value over the years, you might be better off selling it while it is in both names.

The decision of whether to keep or sell your house may be difficult to make, and as this article shows, there are a lot of different factors to take into consideration. If you need the advice of a divorce professional, consider attending a local Second Saturday Divorce Workshop. Search for the next workshop in your area.

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  4. Hi.

    My father just filed for a divorce. He is 60yrs and retired 8months ago.

    My step mom is 53yrs and just took early pension, but is still working at the school as a teacher. She should’ve received the early pension about a month ago.

    They have been married for about 12 yrs. She packed up and left the house about 3 months ago. He sold our family home (which he solely owned) in 2014 and used that profit to buy this house which he currently lives in. She also has another house she owns.

    Does he stand a chance in keeping the house?

    1. In most states, separate property brought into the marriage or inherited during the marriage is that spouse’s separate property, with some exceptions for funds invested during the marriage. He should talk with someone who knows the laws of his state to see what the rules are there.

  5. Ginita,
    My question pertains to house sale proceeds and retirement $. I have approximately 40k more in my retirement portfolio than my soon to be ex husband. It is my understanding that I will have to give him half of that. Is it more financially sound to give him a greater portion of the proceeds from the house sale than from my reitrement? Can you give some compounding examples with a modest 5-6% return on 140k vs 120k?

    1. You are better off giving him retirement funds. That’s because those are likely fully taxable to you when you draw them out in retirement, so transferring the funds to his retirement will transfer that future tax liability as well.

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  11. My wife and I are going to divorce but we BOTH want to keep the house.
    We’re both financially capable of keeping the house (bought the house @ low price when housing market crash!).
    We just want the best for our 5 years old daughter! no contest, no requests of anything from BOTH side – we just simply want to divorce and keep the house.
    Both will be responsible for the payment.
    Can we do that without any refinancing? or the court will order to sell the house and split?

  12. Our marital home is and has always been in my name only. I refinanced and have a 2% interest rate. He will leave the home and I will give him a cash amount as agreed in our settlement.
    No children in our marriage.
    My dilemma, do I sell the house to give him his settlement and move to another place or keep the house since it is affordable for me, then sell when and if I’m ready. My credit is still being repaired since 2009 crash, I’m concerned a new cash out refinance will erase the low interest rate, my current credit rating will limit where I’m able to move to, but I know it is a buyers market and I could use additional profits to add some working capital to my business.
    I’m so conflicted.

  13. My husband just give me the divorce papers and he wants to sale the house, I am in disability and I want to keep the house. What can I do? He will not take a dial.

  14. I am considering letting my long term boyfriend move into my home in exchange for rent. He is financially doing better than me but my parents are worried that he will try claim part of my house as his if we broke up. I bought the house without him, the mortgage and deed are in my name only and I working on a rental agreement between us to clarify that he is paying rent, not part of the mortgage. My parents have also said that he should not help with house repair costs because that can be used to claim house ownership. I want to ask if that is true and if there are other things I need to do to stay protected before letting him move in.

  15. My son and daughter-in-law are going through a messy divorce. I have been told that she might wind up getting the house. If this happens, am I correct in assuming that he would be removed from the deed as a result of the divorce decree and that she would be required to refinance the mortgage under her own name?

  16. HI,

    I have been given the house in our divorce agreement, and I have been paying the mortgage since 2011; however, the loan is in my ex father in law’s name and i have had trouble getting the loan in my name based on my debt to income ratio. If we sell, who would bear the capital gain penalty?

    1. I don’t know what a capital gain penalty is. If you sell the home that is in your name, then you will report and pay taxes on any gain that exceeds $250,000 (sales price minus costs of sale minus original cost of home plus improvements).

  17. hi

    My wife has asked for a divorce, we have a joint bond which we started paying from Feb 2016. I would like advice, I would like to keep the house and get it transferred onto my name.
    what would happen if my wife would agree or dis agree. there is no profit to be made if its sold and it would on get settled. I would not be paying any money to her only giving back her vehicle that we both pay for.

    thank you

  18. help!. I am from Texas. my fiance and I bought a fixer upper and have not yet moved in. since then he has changed his mind and no longer wants to get married and does not want the house. I don’t make enough to carry the note bymyself. although i would love to still fix it up and move in. i dont know if selling would even be an option because we used a 203k loan and took way more money out then the house worth for renovations. what are my options?

  19. I am going through a very difficult divorce after 31 years. I live in California and it is a 50/50 state. My husband has been planning this divorce for three years. He quit his high paying job, got a job as a box boy at a local market, and has been hiding his income away from my grown autistic son and I. I have stayed in our home with my autistic son. I have paid the mortgage, property taxes, and all associated costs for the past year and a half. I am asking for him to sign over the title of our home in lieu of spousal support. He has been making me jump through hoops and will not sign. All I want is security and stability for my son. I can afford the home but it is costly. My attorney believes my husband will not be good to pay spousal support and will have to be court ordered and chased down. She would like me to keep our home but it has been a huge battle, and very costly with attorney fees. Court is in three weeks!! Help!!

  20. Hi if me and my partner have a divorce. But have a joint mortgage . And three kids together do they get to keep the house and I pay for it. Or can it be sold

  21. We are very close to do adoption and according to social worker he has to quite smoking. I gave him suggestion of nicotine patch, gum which will help him in quitting. He says I am very controlling. He surf and play cricket in the weekend 6-2 pm, come home have drink, watch tv and go to sleep. If u ask him to help with something he will start his tentram. Start throwing remotes, break glasses. He has misunderstanding. I asked him to come early on 1 Saturday @ 11 due to wedding we had to attend @ 1pm. He shows up @ 12pm. He thinks I don’t want him to have his weekend life. Which is not true at all. He says I am jealous of him.
    Now he doesn’t want to adopt the kid since we all are controlling his life (socials worker & me). Now he wants to enjoy his life and leave me since I have diabetes .. And according to him He doesn’t want to live with person who has disease . He doesn’t want me to watch tv. Wants me to Go to gym everyday 7 days and get rid of diabetes. Then he will stay with me otherwise He wants to sell the house. but I can’t.. I have 2 dogs and I want to keep the house ..
    I used to go to gym everyday but then I also have to have dinner ready by 7. I work till 5:30 go to gym then come home @ 7. After dishes I walk with him and my dogs, feed my dogs. Then I watch tv while cutting vegetables for next day as he doesn’t eat frozen vegetables. Then I cook for next day and then, I pack lunch for both of us. I can go to sleep around 12 and up @6 to go to work.. He goes to bed @ 9.. And he tells me I am lazy person and he doesn’t want to live with me. He says I ruined His life .. He doesn’t help with cleaning much either . His way cleaning means throw away things that comes in the way. I don’t know what to do . He doesn’t want to do counseling. He says I need the counseling not him .. He is active and has no disease .
    I am tired with all his threats, demands and altimatum.. He wants me to give up watching tv, talking to friends and just workout all day .
    I don’t want to force him to live with me if he doesn’t want to .. But How can I keep my house ?? I want to keep myself secure …

    1. Hes a narcissist. Im married to one as well and hear how fat and disgusting i am… im 120 lbs and am very active. I dont go to the gym but i run when i can. I dont sit down at home and take care of the housework, kids, and animals.He tries to get me to move out and im not allowed to have any male friends. He goes through my phone frequently, in which i leave laying around due to nothing to hide, but finds little things to then accuse me of cheating. Such as calling me a lesbian because of selfies with my bff of 20 years doing kissy faces. He says these things in front of our kids. I have goats and today he opened the gate, holding it open,standing there so i would have to chase after them to get them back in. Hes put me in the hospital with broken bones and manipulated me into thinking things would change. Of course they didnt. After that i just wanted out…i dodnt care about the house…but now, i just want to stick it to him as hard as possible. Karma. Hes greedy with money so i know thats where itll hurt him. I want the house… my barn is here, the kids are comfortable here, and ill do whatever it takes to do so. Im done being a doormat although man do his words hurt like hell. Jacky, hang in there…be strong…

  22. question for the husbands, my wife and i have no trust anymore. for the 4th time i have caught her messaging another man to meet, now i want a divorce yet am scared of loosing the house i bought. due to job loss and now a low wage i don’t want to give up my house. the only reason i am posting on here is because every site i’ve seen it’s always about the woman keeping the house. yet it’s only my name on the mortgage and they are her children from previous marriage. i don’t want to loose my home where my own daughters can come see me. please help.

  23. patricia hoover

    My husband of 24years has filed for a divorce. Is is in adulterous relationship. We spent my inheritance money with the promise he would repay me once he gets his 2million inheritance. Mine was two hundred thousand. Can I keep him to this promise and add it into our divorce agreement

  24. Why do you people even bother posting your story here? Their response is talk to an attorney. So don’t waste your time.

  25. Hi Mandy,
    I wish I had some advice, but unfortunately am in the same predicament. I can’t afford the mortgage on my own, and it’s a big house to keep up with while working full-time and taking care of the kids. But my kids are still young and we have a tight community, I don’t want to uproot them on top of everything else. I will stuck, especially since I don’t want a divorce in the first place.

  26. My husband of 21 years wants a dissolution. I have a son with special medical needs and another with a TBI.
    Do I keep the house? Change might create problems for my children.

    I need financial advice on how to plan for my children with special medical needs. Do you know of an expert?

  27. My husband has filed for divorce. We have been separated for over 5 years. I have paid the mortgage since he has been out of the house and before. He has had affairs. The house has a Veterans’s loan. I don’t want to give up any of my retirement. He makes less money than me. What can I do to keep the house and not share my retirement. I have not retired yet.

    1. Please let me know what happens. Your situation sounds like mine. I have been separated for 2 1/2 years and have been paying the mortgage on my own. Actually I paid off our bankruptcy on my own.

  28. I am afraid my husband is trying to purposefully lose his job since we separated. Can I ask for an amount of support and maintenance, or does it have to be a percentage?

  29. My question is, we have been married 10 yrs now and he had the house before we got together. We have never changed anything to have to put my name on the deed. Since we have been married 10 yrs now would I have any right to it.. My other question is if we were able to work things out and we haven’t done any of that stuff with the deed would his kids be able to take the house from me at a later date years from now if anything ever happened to him. I’m on disability and the house is paid for.. I don’t mean to sound selfish but I don’t know what I would do..

    1. I do not know what the law is in your state regarding your interest in the house if your name isn’t on it, but a knowledgeable attorney can tell you. If he dies and his will leaves his estate to his kids, you may have a right to claim against his estate anyway because you are his wife. If he leaves the house to you, then you get it. If it is retitled in your name jointly with right of survivorship, you get it no matter what his will says. Hint, hint ….

  30. My husband wants to divorce me. We being married for 9 yrs. We have 2 kids. I want to keep the house to raise my kids,and give them stability. I asked him to buy me the house. He told me I only rate 25% of child support not a house. I think my kids are worth this house not an apartment where he will make me move again. The home is under his name,and mine. He complains that he pays too much in property taxes.
    He is military,has more education than me. I have always work minimum wages. I could feed my kids but I can’t effort a mortgage. What are my chances of keeping the house?

      1. Is your answer for everything, “Hire an attorney”? “See a financial advisor”,

        You are the type of person who keeps this perpetual lie going that we NEED professional consultation.

        Since the feminization of our culture, women seem to think they have the right to take as much as they can from the man, and leave him out to dry.

        What about a man who did everything he could, took his family to Hawaii 7 times in 5 years, Disneyland 3 times in 4 years, and bent over backwards to keep a wife happy, who just got plain bored with him, and felt she needed more excitement in her life, despite the man’s best efforts to hold it together, while going through a mid-life change?

        What is the wife entitled to? An attorney who’ll screw the man because she wanted more excitement.

        This women’s empowerment movement thing is really getting old. GOOD MEN, are getting the shaft because women have been sold this lie on television that marriage is about excitement, shopping, success, and collection of worthless, meaningless, material possessions, and when “need” isn’t met, it’s time to jump ship, and bail.

        Im a man, and I have an over medicated, suicidal, sleep deprived, hormonally imbalanced, materialistic, empowered, crazy wife who acts and thinks like a child, and is utterly incapable of raising our kids properly. She wants me to move out of the house. I say nuts to that. If she’s not happy, SHE can move on because despite what her terrible math skills have allowed her to calculate, I’ve spent twice of all our combined expendetures for over 12 years, and now she wants to throw me out and have cake and eat it too?

        Sorry, but that’s not gonna happen.

        1. When you married, you entered into a legal contract and created a legal entity, your marriage. In order to terminate that entity, you need to enter into another legal contract, and the terms of that contract are proscribed by law. If you and your spouse know and understand the laws of your state that govern marriage and divorce, then you will be able to negotiate an agreement and draft a legal contract. If you do not know the laws of your state that relate to the issues, and most people don’t, then you will need to seek legal advice. That is the reality of the situation.

          1. You addressed none of my valid arguments. Again, you are telling me to seek legal advice.

            What say you about my situation?

            It seems this site is CHOCK full of women who’s goal it is to leech, and game the legal system to get as much of a marriage as possible, regardless of morality issues.

            Their IS blame. People ARE culpable for their actions. I have been a model husband who’s paid more than twice the amount of our shared expenses. Why should my wife be entitled to the majority of assets when she’s the mentally ill who just can’t seem to get past this 7 year itch, and be more compassionate during a typical, mid-life change that most men go through. (coincidentally, we’ve been married for 7 years).

          2. You sound like you were a good husband. Not every woman on here is a leech. In the 28 years that I was married I was the one who had a job all the time while my husband was in and out of jobs. While I was at work he was at home getting plastered. He had ads on Craigslist for women to come to our home during the day while I was at work. He chatted online to many women while I was at work. In the end he threatened to shoot me and my daughter, forcing me to get a PFA. Now he wants the home that I have been paying for on my own for the past two years. It is also on property that my mom and dad gave to us as part of my inheritance. My mom still lives next door. He wants to move his money hungry girlfriend into my home. If that happens I wont be able to visit my mom without seeing him living in my home..
            Don’t judge every woman on here based on the actions and statements of a few.

          3. It’s pretty clear why wife wants to leave you. You’re pretty stubborn and rude. It has nothing to do with “feminization.” Obviously you don’t give open heartedly or else you wouldn’t keep a tally of you versus her leisure contributions. You need legal advise because the facts need to be evaluated. You need someone to tell you how shitty your attitude has made your situation. I hope your wife gets everything she asks for. If she’s out up with you all those years, she’s definitely earned it. Feel bad for any woman who falls for someone so full of himself.

          4. Honestly this fellow sounds like an abuser, calling her names, saying all of these dreadful things about her and blaming feminism. It’s a classic tactic. I wonder if she is medicated, suicidal and sleep deprived because of this man’s attitudes. I can’t say I blame her for leaving

        2. I’m going through something similar. My wife has been amazing for 13 years. And I love her with all my heart. But since she got a new job and a few new friends she has lost her damn mind. Has become arrogant and puts our marriage on the back burner to be with her new friends. I wouldnt say shes crazy but she isnt herself. I’ve been considering whether or not this marriage is going to last. I too consider myself a good man, a great father and a good husband who doesnt deserve the BS that is happening. I wish you luck man. And the woman below talking about your shitty attitude, obviously cant understand sh*t. Troll on lady.

          1. Alexa you say you can see why, just rude he is probably being stubborn and rude due to the fact for the last seven years he has put his heart and soul into a marriage and got very little in return. This would cause the worst to come out in all of us. The fact is you don’t know what his circumstance is or why their marriage failed. I’ve spent the last twelve years in a Mairage that was one sided. I gave everything I was to it and she gave all she was to our kids, friends and herself (the kids are understandable) now that she says she wants to go take the kids, half of everything I’ve worked so hard to give her and a large chunk of my well deserved income. You damn well bet I’m going to be full of myself for awhile. I gave and gave while my friends slipped away and hers took over I worked as much overtime as possible to give as much as I could to our family and all that has done was help her get custody since she has been the stay at home mom. The court system is flawed in many states including my own they say that she sacrificed her career to raise kids bull sh@& excuse I sacrificed time with my kids, what would you consider being more valuable and more of a sacrifice. Jason you are right you won’t get any real advise on here except get legal advise. You damn well bet your ex is doing so and probably taking money away from you and the kids to do so.

        3. Man I am much in the same situation. I paid CASH for our home and she is unhappy and left me.
          I figure the house is MINE. She left me…. To hell with this community property crap. The house is mine. If she thinks otherwise. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXx

    1. I have being married for 14 years and have 2 beautiful boys. I was in an accident in 2018, fell 13 floors with a lift. My work bored me and I am only getting 65percent of my salary. I took out an insurance 20 years back and it payed of my bond , credit cards and I bought a new car and another house. I still get a subsidy from my Employer and have the new house for less then a year. I am renting our 1st house to pay for the mortgage on the 2nd house. He cheated on me 3 times and made me took out a 2nd bond on the 1st house and that was exactly have of the price we bought the house for to pay for his girlfriend’s studies. He doesn’t help me to pay for the 2nd house and now he got a promotion at work, so now he wants to divorce me and if I need to sell the houses I will never be able to buy a house again and my employer will not subsides for a 3rd house. I am declared disabled at work, he got a degree now and honest, I have only matric, I helped him all this years with his studies. He is working for the Police department. I am so afraid I dont know what to do, help me please

      1. First of all, stop and take 10 deep breaths. The laws of your state likely are written to provide an equitable solution for the division of your assets in divorce, if it comes to that. You’ll need to talk to someone who knows those laws about how things might work your in your situation, how much support you can expect, etc. Don’t delay — the sooner you get the information you need, the more proactive you can be.

  31. My husband left 4 years ago and has deposited £780 in the joint account for my expenses, I retired 6 years ago and he is retiring at the end of the year, although he has been off work due to ill health. He is getting a lump sum and also drawing an independent pension with a state pension at the end of the year. He is asking for my daughter to loan him £300.00 for a property as he said he would not ask me to leave my home which is paid for, however I feel this is a way of getting his share without sharing his pension. I have some savings and he has said I need to get a financial advisor to invest the money for a pension. What do you think?

  32. My husband wants me to keep the house. My income alone will cover the mortgage, but will barely cover all living expenses so i can rent out a room. Im concerned with current interest rates, although still low, will be increasing and what interest rate, or loan id qualify for just based on my income, which gross is apx 3x mortgage, not including taxes and insurance. Selling it would probably mean giving up half the profits let alone any chance of coming back. Were doing a legal separation or suspended divorce first.

    1. Talk to your bank or a mortgage broker to find out what loan you’d qualify for based on your income. Then decide what you should do based on your situation. Your husband doesn’t have the right to make decisions for you that aren’t in your best interest.

  33. My husband told me 2weks ago he wants divorce. We face hard times during the recession He was lost a great paying job in 2008 and I was laid off in 2010. He was able to pick up sales positions only to be terminated within a short amount of time. When I was laid off I had to make a decision about pulling down my pension to pay bills. I also used it to buy a few large screen TV .Since then he drinks a six pack w/pot nitely. I have tried to hang in there with him because I love him but it brakes my heart that after my investing my pension he no longer wants to be married to me. It will be15 years married in a few month. We don’t have children his oldest is 29yrs and the youngest is 20yrs. In 2011 my husband wasn’t getting along well with his manager so he quit his job. I don’t think he thought of the consequences because I ended up having all of my tax refunds since then taken for child support. We have a great house that I found picked out an have invested every penny into. My husband told me that this was his last summer in the house. I want to keep the house. It wont be so easy because I just bought a new car that i’ll have to sell, but it is doable. I have about 15 more years to work before retirement and I have started paying back the pension I pulled down. I would suggest to my husband that I can pay the mortgage and stay in the house, but he’s trifflin. and I don’t want after having divorced him to find that he had an affair with children on the way with a new obligation. I don’t have children and would like to become a foster parent. What should I do?

    1. Talk to an attorney right away about your options in divorce. If you are trying to stay married (it’s hard to tell from your post) then you can suggest that he and you try marriage counseling, but if he won’t do that, then it sounds like you will be getting divorced. So find out from an attorney what you can expect so you are prepared.

  34. My husband left three years ago and is continuing to pay the mortgage but I want to sell it so I can move but he doesn’t. He doesn’t have enough money to buy me out or the credit to refinance it on his own. The house is in both of our names and I can’t afford an attorney but I also can’t afford to find another place without selling this house first. If I file on my own requesting that we sell our house and he contests, can I then hire attorney even if my papers of already been filed ?

    1. If he can’t buy you out, and you don’t want the house, then a judge will order it sold. But a judge can’t do that until you file and request a court hearing. You can always hire an attorney, at any time after you file. Everyone is entitled to representation.

  35. He left four years ago to work abroad and have affairs. He has paid the mortgage monthly since we bought the home jointly 10 years ago. I need the home to live I due to fighting cancer and it being near treatment facilities.
    He is now telling me I need to pay the entire mortgage monthly because he is moving and needs more money to pay for housing in Europe.
    What do I do?

      1. My wife filed for divorce. I’m retired she still works I make 37000 on retirement she makes 60000.on her job. She told me to keep house in petition but is asking for 38000 for her half of marital assets. I had to retire from medical issues. Does this mean I have to sell the house its paid for in 5 years I planned on living here. Should I sell the house. Owe 70000 left to pay. I can make payments.

        1. I don’t know if what your wife is seeking from you is what she is entitled to under the laws of your state. But if it is, then you’ll need to figure out how to get her what she is entitled to. Maybe she’d be willing to take a promissory note from you that accrues interest, and you could start payments to her once the mortgage payments end? Or perhaps you can take out a home equity loan, and pay that off beginning when the mortgage payments are over? Those are just a couple of options that come to mind that would keep you from having to sell the house.

  36. I know of parents who keep the home while renting an apartment. When one spouse has the kids, the other is in the apartment. The parents move back and forth, not the children.

  37. What if I can’t afford the house on my own, but can’t leave because of my kids. If I keep it and fix it up? Or just let him have it and find my own cheaper place

    1. My wife had a bad car accident leaving her disabled and coming to a settlement of money results of the accident. Now after 14 years of keeping my part of our matrimonial vowels (In sickness and in health) and investing over $60,000. In improvements to our home she decides to ffile for divorce. The house owes more than what it’s worth because we have three liens on the property for remodeling bathrooms to be wheelchair accessible just in case she ends up needing one. Now in order for me to sytay with the house our mortgage company wants to resell me our house and up the price to its now value instead of allowing me to keep paying what’s left of the mortgage debt, amount I can afford, and just take my wife’s name off the deed. What can I do if anything to keep the house???

      1. I don’t really understand what the mortgage company is wanting to do, since they don’t “sell” homes, and the loan wouldn’t increase unless you asked to borrow more to pay her off. It is a simple thing to take her name off the deed (with her agreement, of course), but she is likely not to allow that to happen unless she receives something in return. All that is part of the divorce negotiations.

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