Prince Charming Doesn’t Live Here Anymore

“Someday, my Prince will come” goes the song. But what if he came – and went — and took half of everything with him? That’s the dilemma of the woman on  her own again.

Whether you are single, divorced or widowed, statistics show that you should expect to spend an average of one third of your adult life on your own. And, with women’s life expectancy climbing into the 80’s in many states, that means you could have a full 27 years of providing for yourself.  Times sure have changed – if you had been born in classical Greece, 27 was pretty much your entire life span (talk about cost savings; one toga made up an entire wardrobe).  All that aside, it’s time to get savvy about saving and budgeting – starting today.

“Saving” either sounds simple or terrifying, depending on your money “purse-onality.” If you like to save, you are ahead of the game.  On the other hand, if you equate “saving” with toothpicks being pressed under your fingernails, it’s time to stop quivering – when you “save” money, you are literally “saving” yourself from a life of fear and misery (not to mention no food).

It sounds simple. Spend less than you make, then put the rest away in smart investments. But like the standard advice about dieting (eat less and exercise more), simple advice is deceptively hard to follow. The first step to saving is budgeting.

To diet, before you can cut back, you have to know what you eat. And to begin budgeting, first you must analyze where your money goes. Use Quicken or another financial management computer program if you like, or make the calculations by hand.

To do your own calculations, make columns on paper and list at the top of each column the budget categories that apply to you.

Your budget categories might include:

  • Mortgage
  • Rent
  • Food
  • Utilities
  • Gasoline
  • Insurance
  • Credit card payments
  • Installment loans
  • Repairs
  • Clothing
  • Medical
  • Personal and beauty care
  • Books and magazines
  • Entertainment
  • Gifts
  • Charity
  • Hobby expenses
  • Taxes
  • Miscellaneous
  • Savings and investments

To this list add budget categories that are uniquely yours.

Then go through your checkbook for the past year and list each check in its proper column. Add each column, and you will have a summary of your spending by category for the past year.

If you have kept your credit card bills, put each credit card charge into a category, instead of lumping your entire payments under “credit card payments.” Although this may, at first glance, seem like a demanding task, you will be surprised to find that most of your charges fall into just a few major categories, such as dining out, clothing, and so on, and so the monthly bill can be categorized easily.

Decide where to cut back and which categories you expect will increase. Divide the revised amounts by twelve to arrive at your preliminary monthly budget.

Adjust and readjust the figures until your monthly budget equals your monthly income. This may take some doing, but persevere. Be sure you allocate as much as possible to the category “savings and investments.”

If your income doesn’t cover your expenses, a budget will force you to make some hard choices. When you make a budget, you will have to decide what is most important to you and what you can live without. A budget won’t give you more money each month, but sticking to it will leave you with more at the end of the month.

Each month, tally your checkbook and credit card expenses for each category, just as you did here for the year. Then prepare a four-column worksheet that lists your budget categories in the first column, your budgeted expenses in the second column, and your actual expenses in the third column. In the fourth column compute whether you exceeded your budget or came in under, with an explanation.

If you consistently exceed your budget, you must adjust your spending habits or find a way to increase your income so you can accommodate your extra spending.

If full-blown budgeting sounds like too much trouble, you may want to use a shortcut method to control your expenses. Because some expenses, such as your mortgage payment, your car payment, most utilities, and even most groceries, are beyond your control, the shortcut method doesn’t focus on them.

Budget only a few categories – the ones you can control – and analyze your spending each month for those categories only. Though this method is simpler, be sure you periodically review all your monthly expenditures to ensure that your total spending doesn’t exceed your income.

3 thoughts on “Prince Charming Doesn’t Live Here Anymore”

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  2. No matter how charming, Charming is, I`ll never have a joint bank account with anyone but with my kids.

    Perhaps one to manage household expenses, but only if that is required, vs sharing out expenses evenly.

    Pre-nups protect women too.

  3. Well after reading this article it really struck home with me. My prince charming abandoned me after 8 yrs of marriage–he was diagnosed with prostrate cancer and could not or would not accept any help for his erratic emotional state which left our marriage in complete turmoil. After maxing out credit cards and stealing our (OUR) funds from the credit union which we both contributed to and might I add taking up a drug addiction with a skank skunk female leaving me in sooo much debt and I don’t know how I am going to recover leaves me with the impression of there are no prince charmings around as the man I am married to presently is not the man I married initially. Did I see this coming is the question that has been asked of me often. NO! if I would have seen this coming I would have run like a bat out of Hell. This is a life lesson and believe you me I have paid attention very carefully if there is another prince lurking around you better believe he will have to pass the ultimate TEST!!!

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